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08-10-2013, 02:57 PM | #1 |
YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Apr 2013 Location: Estill Springs, TN
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| My female is mean... I have read past threads and cannot seem to find any "how to's" on dealing with aggression. She is awesome with us, loves my kids. Never questions our authority. Not even food aggressive or toy protective with humans, but she is terrorizing our male. She will not even allow him to relax, won't let him come to us to get lovin', won't let him eat. He is my favorite dog ever and his awesome personality is getting sucked out of him because he is always in fear. When I tell him to come to me, he looks for the female to be sure he will be ok. She glares at him and he submits... Today my daughter was holding him in her lap and the female attacked him from the floor (she can't jump on furniture-well, she can, but doesn't know it), left my dd in tears. SOMETHING has got to change. Anyone have any ideas on what would help the situation? Will I have to find her a home with no other pets? He is 5 (weighing 5 lbs); she is 1.5 (weighs 9lbs). |
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08-10-2013, 03:35 PM | #2 |
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| I'm so sorry! That sounds like a tough situation. Was the male in your home first? Has she been aggressive toward him since she was a puppy?
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08-10-2013, 03:43 PM | #3 |
YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Apr 2013 Location: Estill Springs, TN
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| He was here first. She has always been dominant over him, but it is escalating. Looking back, I chose the wrong puppy. She was the most outgoing of the litter from the get-go. |
08-10-2013, 06:46 PM | #4 |
Yorkie mom of 4 Donating YT Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: LaPlata, Md
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| I think the best thing to do would be to involve a trainer. You could try squirting her with a water bottle and saying no when she does it but I really think this is the kinda of situation a professional needs to be involved in. If the male is getting hurt or has the possibility to get hurt you need to keep them separated.
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08-10-2013, 06:47 PM | #5 |
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| Has she been spayed yet? If not, that may help. Other than that, I have no idea other than some sort of training for your female. Maybe a dog behaviorist can help. Hoping others chime in on this topic. Good luck!
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08-10-2013, 10:30 PM | #6 |
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| Our female is that way, but only to Westley, our baby. I have to keep him seperate at night because she's a bully. She's never mean to Noah, but she will grab his tail and tug him around. I think the difference is that she and Noah came home together and lived together even before, and Westley joined them 4-5 months later. She thinks she's queen bee, and even tries to nudge me sometimes to get her way. I have to set her straight and remind her I'm the alpha dog.
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08-11-2013, 09:17 AM | #7 |
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| Has she been spayed? I would not allow this to happen anymore... I would definitely get a trainer involved. She could hurt him. In the mean time, if she shows aggression, I would seperate her from the pack. Anytime she acts like that, I would put her in a time (in an ex pen) out to show her that she does not benefit from bossing him around. Make sure to give your boy extra love... It sounds like he needs it.
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08-11-2013, 09:22 AM | #8 |
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| I just wanted to wish you good luck with this situation. I really hope it can be solved soon so that you all can live happily as a family
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08-11-2013, 09:47 AM | #9 |
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| U need to hold your male in your lap and tell her it's ok. Do this a lot, also take both out for walks together. Hopefully by u holding him in your lap she will get the message from u that you are the pack leader. Right now she is! |
08-11-2013, 09:55 AM | #10 |
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| I'd keep a leash on her at all times. Sometimes giving her more attention can help. There are some threads about correcting this type of behavior: http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/gen...ease-help.html http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/gen...ml#post3372693 http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/gen...ml#post3753688
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08-11-2013, 05:59 PM | #11 |
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| I have an 'alpha' female myself. We had a rough patch for a while but taking her to obedience classes and exercising her more helped. I also had to watch for her signs she was going to be dominant and start correcting her before the behavior escalated. Make sure you teach her you are the boss, make her do tricks for food and when you walk her make sure she stays by your side or slightly behind you and not in front. I would contact a trainer asap before things get worse.
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08-12-2013, 06:36 AM | #12 |
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| if it was me I would rehome the female, yeah I know some people would frown on this but it sounds like she would like to be an only dog and I feel very bad for your first dog that is being terrorized by all this. It must be miserable for your poor boy to be afraid all the time, this would make it hard for me to like the female and by your comment I picked the wrong dog I sense you sort of feel a bit like that. This happened to me but only in reverse, my first yorkie was about 2 when I brought home a small bichon. no matter what I did to help them get along the older dog would not take to the puppy and he was either aggressive towards the puppy or hid under the bed. Eventually he started to get aggressive with me if I would be giving them both treats or attention. After about 8 months I finally rehomed the happy little Bichon to a family with no other dogs and things returned to normal and my first dog went back to being a fun happy affectionate dog. Life is stressful enough and I want to enjoy my pets not have them constantly separated from each other or being on guard so one does not get hurt. Also trying to un train natural personality behavior is not easy and not always possible.
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08-12-2013, 10:45 AM | #13 |
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| Kyra can be aggressive with Laddy at times and with other dogs to, she weighs a whopping 3 lbs soaking wet but she thinks she weighs 100. We put her in time out when she tries this and she will be fine for a couple of weeks then will try again and time out again lol. Honestly for her it is the only thing we have found that works. She hates being separated from the rest of the family.
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08-12-2013, 07:22 PM | #14 | |
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08-13-2013, 02:04 AM | #15 |
Senior Yorkie Talker | Really feel for you and the situation your in, without knowing details like how long she's been with you? has this behaviour been there from day one or did it start some time later? and many more questions, if it was me in this situation I would start treat training... sit both dogs next to each other so they both have focus on the "treat" then starting with your boy give a treat and then her next, she will learn respect that he goes first, I do this with my 4 and make each do "trick" then "treat" in the order they came, Milo number 3 lol took a while to get the hang of it he thinks he should be first and stills struggles with the excitement of "me me me", its not easy having a pack and having a "it's all about me" dog in the mix is even more difficult its just showing her she can still get attention without the attitude, in a safe way for your boy and so your boy doesn't get pushed out, make her aware her behaviour does not pay. Hope the situation resolves and you can have a happy pack
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