dog won't warm up to my husband - YorkieTalk.com Forums

dinkyweil · 07-01-2010, 01:39 PM

I'ts obvious my Yorkie prefers me to my husband, and that is okay;however, it feels as if it's getting to be a problem. It seem that no matter what my husband does that Dinky resents him. I think I do have a jealous Yorkie on my hands. MY hubby is doing more for and with the dog, but really no progress at all. He won't come out of his crate to him, he is still reluctant to cross his path. He will take treats from him. This morning my husband let Dinky eat bacon treats from his feet, and the dog really liked that, but once the treat is gone, Dinky just gives my poor husband the cold shoulder.
Any words of encouragement. My husband feels bad, and I feel bad for him.

cathys · 07-01-2010, 03:48 PM

Wow, How long have you had the puppy? How old is it? My only advice is maybe to let them spend some time all alone, maybe playing with a favorite toy. Most pups love to chase and play tug of war, he could try something like that. He can also take the pup to a training class, this can be a bonding experience. Maybe if they do something on their own the pup will find out he's a safe person too. It's hard to say what the background of the pup was, maybe he is just not used to men. Give it time.

Nancy1999 · 07-01-2010, 04:04 PM

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Originally Posted by cathys

Wow, How long have you had the puppy? How old is it? My only advice is maybe to let them spend some time all alone, maybe playing with a favorite toy. Most pups love to chase and play tug of war, he could try something like that. He can also take the pup to a training class, this can be a bonding experience. Maybe if they do something on their own the pup will find out he's a safe person too. It's hard to say what the background of the pup was, maybe he is just not used to men. Give it time.

Good advice. Joey was a mama's boy for a long time. I was home with him all day, and I fed him and trained him. My husband started taking Joey for runs in the park, and also, on some fun errands. He holds his bully stick at night, when I'm on Yorkietalk, and gradually they have become great buddies. I think Joey sees me more of the food person, and the grooming person, and my husband more as his buddy. If you yorkie is still young, the most important thing your husband can do is not to scare him, and always make him feel safe, it will come in time.

dinkyweil · 07-01-2010, 04:43 PM

Thanks for the good advice. We need it. The three of us just came back from our evening walk. Dinky is only 18 weeks old so he walks just a short time. Most of the time, he just wants to go back home! We take turns carrying him. We walk a little over 2 miles. We ended with me taking Dinky to his potty spot. Then when we walked into the house, Dinky saw my hubby and acted as if he were some strange man!
Tonight we are going to put hubby's shirt over Dinky's crate and then tomorrow they will have some alone time. I do believe that time will do the trick. We've only had him for two weeks. It really isn't getting better though. The one on one is what they need.

Nancy1999 · 07-01-2010, 05:21 PM

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Originally Posted by dinkyweil

Thanks for the good advice. We need it. The three of us just came back from our evening walk. Dinky is only 18 weeks old so he walks just a short time. Most of the time, he just wants to go back home! We take turns carrying him. We walk a little over 2 miles. We ended with me taking Dinky to his potty spot. Then when we walked into the house, Dinky saw my hubby and acted as if he were some strange man!
Tonight we are going to put hubby's shirt over Dinky's crate and then tomorrow they will have some alone time. I do believe that time will do the trick. We've only had him for two weeks. It really isn't getting better though. The one on one is what they need.

Oh he's just a baby. I'd say it was closer to a year when they started bonding, now at 3 1/2, I'm a little jealous.

mypreciouspups · 07-01-2010, 05:26 PM

I think in time with hubby playing with him and Dinky gaining his trust he will come a long ways.. Dinky might have been a puppy that loved his mommie that raised him so wants to be a mommies boy yet.. trust trust with yorkies is a huge part of it all...
good luck to you..

Britster · 07-04-2010, 03:44 PM

I brought Jackson home at 9 weeks old. I live with my mom and stepdad. I remember it taking Jackson a while to warm up to my stepdad, who is this guy with a big deep voice and almost 6ft tall lol. I guess he just looked intimidating. I don't know what it was, but suddenly they became buddies and Jackson just loves him! I wanna say it took over a month though.

dinkyweil · 07-05-2010, 08:41 AM

Hi, Just want to say that things are going great with DInky and the hubby. DInky needed time. It gets better every day.
This forum has helped me so much. From feeding, to house breaking, to socializing... I worried about all of that and I'm sure I'll worry in the future about other issues. The forums have been very reassuring. Lots of common sense.
Dinky is growing up too. He's "full of vinegar" every moring. ( Does anyone still use that expression?) Somebody is ready for obedience classes!

MochaBoyMom · 08-10-2010, 03:10 PM

Sounds like they are on the track of becoming good buddies...congrats! Tell your hubby don't get too concerned. Let me tell you a much funnier case with my best friend's baby. She bottle-fed her (found abandoned without mommy) from just a few days old so they have extremely strong bond. When the dog was 10 years old she married her hubby and Tiffany got a new step-dad. Oh she hated him because he took her place on the bed and she was no longer the center of mommy's universe. She would jump on the bed in the middle of the night and either pee on her new step-dad's head or sit on his face (we think to try to smother him). To make a long story short, they eventually learned to love each other (actually, I think Tiffy just tolerates daddy but daddy loves her). So you see, if even that relationship can turn around, you have no problem at all

Fizz · 08-10-2010, 06:05 PM

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Originally Posted by MochaBoyMom

Sounds like they are on the track of becoming good buddies...congrats! Tell your hubby don't get too concerned. Let me tell you a much funnier case with my best friend's baby. She bottle-fed her (found abandoned without mommy) from just a few days old so they have extremely strong bond. When the dog was 10 years old she married her hubby and Tiffany got a new step-dad. Oh she hated him because he took her place on the bed and she was no longer the center of mommy's universe. She would jump on the bed in the middle of the night and either pee on her new step-dad's head or sit on his face (we think to try to smother him). To make a long story short, they eventually learned to love each other (actually, I think Tiffy just tolerates daddy but daddy loves her). So you see, if even that relationship can turn around, you have no problem at all

That is too funny!!!

It's great that the husband was able to get past the behavior (I mean, pee on one's head is rather personal) and grow to love Tiffany. It shows that it's never to late to form bonds!

MyBabyFynnlie · 08-12-2010, 10:12 AM

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Originally Posted by MochaBoyMom

Sounds like they are on the track of becoming good buddies...congrats! Tell your hubby don't get too concerned. Let me tell you a much funnier case with my best friend's baby. She bottle-fed her (found abandoned without mommy) from just a few days old so they have extremely strong bond. When the dog was 10 years old she married her hubby and Tiffany got a new step-dad. Oh she hated him because he took her place on the bed and she was no longer the center of mommy's universe. She would jump on the bed in the middle of the night and either pee on her new step-dad's head or sit on his face (we think to try to smother him). To make a long story short, they eventually learned to love each other (actually, I think Tiffy just tolerates daddy but daddy loves her). So you see, if even that relationship can turn around, you have no problem at all

This is HYSTERICAL. If a dog peed on my head I'd be a little pissed. (Get it? Okay, I'm lame. I know.)

Beamers Mom · 08-13-2010, 03:31 PM

This is so funny, because when Bruce got Lil Bit he got her for me. But she has always been his baby! I am always second best to Bruce.
When I got Beamer, Bruce said he would try and keep his distance from him so that Beamer would bond with me. Well, I think it was because Beamer was taking a cue from Lil Bit, that he spent more time by Bruce's side than mine. I was good for getting food and treats from - after all I was the one who melted cheese on his food so he would eat it, and I was the one giving him treats, but Bruce was his favourite human. Now he is definitely my baby, but it took time.
For some reason Bruce is the one all dogs will go to. Even when we visit a friend who has a couple of furbabies as soon as we sit down her dogs want on Bruce's lap!

MochaBoyMom · 08-13-2010, 03:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Beamers Mom

This is so funny, because when Bruce got Lil Bit he got her for me. But she has always been his baby! I am always second best to Bruce.
When I got Beamer, Bruce said he would try and keep his distance from him so that Beamer would bond with me. Well, I think it was because Beamer was taking a cue from Lil Bit, that he spent more time by Bruce's side than mine. I was good for getting food and treats from - after all I was the one who melted cheese on his food so he would eat it, and I was the one giving him treats, but Bruce was his favourite human. Now he is definitely my baby, but it took time.
For some reason Bruce is the one all dogs will go to. Even when we visit a friend who has a couple of furbabies as soon as we sit down her dogs want on Bruce's lap!

Bruce...the dog whisperer

IamMiasmom · 08-13-2010, 04:19 PM

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IamMiasmom · 08-13-2010, 04:21 PM

Mia started out very leary of GD but as time went and he would offer a bit of cracker with tuna, now she looks forward to it also int he mornings he takes her outside. SO she is not as dependant on me when she is with him. I was gone last night with the beam team and Mia stayed home with her daddy and did very well... Not to say she doesn't have horror stories to share but that is for when she really wants me to feel guilty over something.

07-01-2010, 01:39 PM	#1
dinkyweil YT Addict Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Nebo, NC Posts: 479	dog won't warm up to my husband I'ts obvious my Yorkie prefers me to my husband, and that is okay;however, it feels as if it's getting to be a problem. It seem that no matter what my husband does that Dinky resents him. I think I do have a jealous Yorkie on my hands. MY hubby is doing more for and with the dog, but really no progress at all. He won't come out of his crate to him, he is still reluctant to cross his path. He will take treats from him. This morning my husband let Dinky eat bacon treats from his feet, and the dog really liked that, but once the treat is gone, Dinky just gives my poor husband the cold shoulder. Any words of encouragement. My husband feels bad, and I feel bad for him.

07-01-2010, 04:43 PM	#4
dinkyweil YT Addict Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Nebo, NC Posts: 479	dinky, dinky, dinky Thanks for the good advice. We need it. The three of us just came back from our evening walk. Dinky is only 18 weeks old so he walks just a short time. Most of the time, he just wants to go back home! We take turns carrying him. We walk a little over 2 miles. We ended with me taking Dinky to his potty spot. Then when we walked into the house, Dinky saw my hubby and acted as if he were some strange man! Tonight we are going to put hubby's shirt over Dinky's crate and then tomorrow they will have some alone time. I do believe that time will do the trick. We've only had him for two weeks. It really isn't getting better though. The one on one is what they need.

07-04-2010, 03:44 PM	#7
Britster Action Jackson ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Maryland Posts: 17,814	I brought Jackson home at 9 weeks old. I live with my mom and stepdad. I remember it taking Jackson a while to warm up to my stepdad, who is this guy with a big deep voice and almost 6ft tall lol. I guess he just looked intimidating. I don't know what it was, but suddenly they became buddies and Jackson just loves him! I wanna say it took over a month though. __________________ ~ Brit & Lights! Camera! Jackson! CGC ETD TKP ~ Follow Jackson on Instagram: https://instagram.com/jacksontheterrier

07-05-2010, 08:41 AM	#8
dinkyweil YT Addict Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Nebo, NC Posts: 479	Thanks again Hi, Just want to say that things are going great with DInky and the hubby. DInky needed time. It gets better every day. This forum has helped me so much. From feeding, to house breaking, to socializing... I worried about all of that and I'm sure I'll worry in the future about other issues. The forums have been very reassuring. Lots of common sense. Dinky is growing up too. He's "full of vinegar" every moring. ( Does anyone still use that expression?) Somebody is ready for obedience classes!

08-13-2010, 03:31 PM	#12
Beamers Mom Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Palm Bay, Fl, USA Posts: 5,957	This is so funny, because when Bruce got Lil Bit he got her for me. But she has always been his baby! I am always second best to Bruce. When I got Beamer, Bruce said he would try and keep his distance from him so that Beamer would bond with me. Well, I think it was because Beamer was taking a cue from Lil Bit, that he spent more time by Bruce's side than mine. I was good for getting food and treats from - after all I was the one who melted cheese on his food so he would eat it, and I was the one giving him treats, but Bruce was his favourite human. Now he is definitely my baby, but it took time. For some reason Bruce is the one all dogs will go to. Even when we visit a friend who has a couple of furbabies as soon as we sit down her dogs want on Bruce's lap! __________________ Help control the pet population. Have your pet spayed or neutered. - Bob Barker

07-01-2010, 03:48 PM	#2
cathys Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: CA,USA Posts: 1,623	Wow, How long have you had the puppy? How old is it? My only advice is maybe to let them spend some time all alone, maybe playing with a favorite toy. Most pups love to chase and play tug of war, he could try something like that. He can also take the pup to a training class, this can be a bonding experience. Maybe if they do something on their own the pup will find out he's a safe person too. It's hard to say what the background of the pup was, maybe he is just not used to men. Give it time.

07-01-2010, 05:26 PM	#6
mypreciouspups Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Florida/Canada Posts: 5,514	I think in time with hubby playing with him and Dinky gaining his trust he will come a long ways.. Dinky might have been a puppy that loved his mommie that raised him so wants to be a mommies boy yet.. trust trust with yorkies is a huge part of it all... good luck to you..

08-10-2010, 03:10 PM	#9
MochaBoyMom Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Southern California Posts: 611	Sounds like they are on the track of becoming good buddies...congrats! Tell your hubby don't get too concerned. Let me tell you a much funnier case with my best friend's baby. She bottle-fed her (found abandoned without mommy) from just a few days old so they have extremely strong bond. When the dog was 10 years old she married her hubby and Tiffany got a new step-dad. Oh she hated him because he took her place on the bed and she was no longer the center of mommy's universe. She would jump on the bed in the middle of the night and either pee on her new step-dad's head or sit on his face (we think to try to smother him). To make a long story short, they eventually learned to love each other (actually, I think Tiffy just tolerates daddy but daddy loves her). So you see, if even that relationship can turn around, you have no problem at all

08-13-2010, 04:19 PM	#14
IamMiasmom YT Addict Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Plattsmouth, NE Posts: 268 Blog Entries: 1	i LOVE THE HUMOR AND ADVICE!

08-13-2010, 04:21 PM	#15
IamMiasmom YT Addict Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Plattsmouth, NE Posts: 268 Blog Entries: 1	Mia started out very leary of GD but as time went and he would offer a bit of cracker with tuna, now she looks forward to it also int he mornings he takes her outside. SO she is not as dependant on me when she is with him. I was gone last night with the beam team and Mia stayed home with her daddy and did very well... Not to say she doesn't have horror stories to share but that is for when she really wants me to feel guilty over something.