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ParrotLady · 05-12-2009, 06:45 AM

My daughter and I are in CA due to a family crisis and we ended up leaving Penny behind with my husband, Terry. Penny gets so car sick and still isn't potty trained, so we thought it would be best to leave her home.

Well, Terry isn't up for the training stuff and Penny is getting by with everything! He lets her follow him into our bedroom and she does "business" in there on the floor several days a week.

He said that she leaves puddles and piles in all kinds of places.

Do you think we will have to start from square one on potty training when we get back? I hate the idea of crating her again. We are so disappointed in all this.

Really, Terry thinks he is being sweet. He felt sorry for her being "boxed" in and only having access to my office and kitchen since he doesn't work in there. I thought that was fine, because he is in the room next to the kitchen so I changed the boxes to include his office too and just encouraged him to watch her closely.

Well, he decided he didn't have time for the potty training and would rather put up with cleaning up the messes. He thinks we can just get her back to the potty training when we get home.

Really, he is spoiling her. Most of the time when we call each other Penny is sleeping ON his desk. He put a blanket up there for her to lay on. LOL This dog is going to think she is the queen of the house when we return.

Well, I just needed to vent. Also, I am wondering if anyone has left their dog somewhere and had to retrain them when they returned.

phfgkl · 05-12-2009, 07:52 AM

I've never been a crate trainer, only xpen, and that's only to sleep in and when we go away for a little bit. Other than that, just like the new one we just got, she's allowed out here with us, and if I catch her peeing or pooping where it's not acceptable, I pick her up, put her nose down by it(this is what has worked for me for years) tell her NO and take her to the pee pad and tell her you potty on the pad. When I do catch her going where she's supposed too, I give lots of praises. Some people will say this is wrong, and it will make them afriad of you. In years, I've never had one dog afraid of me. Hopefully you will get the pup back on track. Mine are not allowed all through the house, to me, that's wrong, they don't need to be in the bedrooms or the living room. They have a huge family room, where we're usually with them all day, the kitchen and laundry room, this way they don't get a chance to pee on the newer carpet. Good luck and sorry to hear about the family emergency

jlafred · 05-12-2009, 08:01 AM

Cant wait to see the replies on this cuz I had a similar prob with Sassy and my sister in law while we were on vacation. She was crate trained when we left but while we were gone, she was allowed to sleep in the bed with my sister in law! I was upset that my instructions were not followed. Needless to say she was untrained when I returned.

PiePiper · 05-12-2009, 08:23 AM

Last summer I had to leave Piper with my DH for a week. She was only 15 weeks at the time and she pottied outside. If you took her out about every 90 min you hardly ever had mistakes. She was contained in the kitchen and in an x-pen at night. My DH is retired so he was home all day yet it was very difficult for him to remember to take her outside so frequently. So she had accidents in the kitchen. She also had an x-pen outside and I would stand there and watch her till she pottied and then praise her and bring her in. My DH found that it was easier for him just to put her in the pen then putt putt outside in the yard and bring her back in. He never really watched her to see if she pottied so again there was quite a few accidents in the kitchen. I only had one day till I was going home and DH called my screaming who is our vet? Which he should have just looked at writtened down instructions of Piper's care where the vet's phone number was clearly written. On an August afternoon he puts Piper in her outside pen and putts, putts in the yard and goes back in. HE FORGOT PIPER. A whole hour outside in the sun, no water. He almost killed my baby. She was listless. Luckily he had enough sence to put her in cool water and I told him to give her the nutrical and he rushed her to the vets. Time he got there she was fine. Once I got home her training was back on scheduled with no problem.

QuickSilver · 05-12-2009, 09:25 AM

PiePiper, yikes!

I know it's nerve wracking to leave your little student under someone else's care. Being a "single mom", my training was pretty consistent, but I had to leave Thor with friends several times while we were training.

I think it's just like kids. They will probably "unlearn" some of the training, but they will re-learn it too when you get back. Even if you go back to the crate for a few days, it will be much faster the next time around. I would try not to sweat it too much. Just BEG your husband to clean up the accidents with an enzyme cleaner, or you might have to steam clean the carpet when you get back.

Patti · 05-12-2009, 09:32 AM

I can understand your frustration, but hopefully she is safe and happy and will get back on track when you get home. I have to leave my 3 for 5 or 6 days for the first time and as long as they are happy and safe I will be ok. I know noone is going to treat them like I do but as long as Penny is Ok then try not to stress.

lemonlauren · 05-15-2009, 04:33 PM

Aw, I'm sorry to hear about this.

Potty training is super time-consuming and frustrating, but it's really a shame your husband couldn't handle it. Definitely find some way to beg/convince/threaten him to use that enzyme cleaner religiously. I don't have any experience with this, but I do think that Penny will re-learn when you two get back home.

I feel for you,

Lauren & Nikko

capt_noonie · 05-16-2009, 09:35 PM

Wouldn't you think that potty training would be less time consuming than cleaning up all those messes?

I think certain parts of the house should be off limits, closed off to your baby. Maybe keep doors closed, or put up gates. Hubby will do what he wants when you are not there to ask/nag/harrass him constantly, trust me I know. LOL. Just focus on your family crisis now, your baby will be fine when you get back. If you have to retrain she will be even better than before! : )

Hope everything works out for you and your family.

kidmuzicdotcom · 05-16-2009, 10:09 PM

wow...i'm surprised to read about how restricted everyone's yorkies are around the house....my girls have free reign of the house,,because we feel it is as much their home as it is ours...if someone comes over who is afraid of dogs we will not confine them to the bedroom...it is their home and that person can either get a grip or leave...our babies are not in the slightest bit aggressive...anyhow...we do have a doggie door and they go out when they need to...shelby rae basically goes out does her business and comes right back in...little kaylee uses her potty pads and we have them on both floors and in all rooms..we are slowly cutting down towards one upstairs and one downstairs...the thing is she does great with tinkling on the potty pads but she poops on the tile and then wants to bring it to us as a present
so we're still working on that part..

QuickSilver · 05-16-2009, 10:12 PM

I think most people are talking aout restricting their dogs during potty training, not generally.

kidmuzicdotcom · 05-16-2009, 10:16 PM

oh ok...just checking...i was afraid I was doing something terribly wrong with the baby's training by letting her have the run of the house

ParrotLady · 05-17-2009, 06:48 PM

We get back home Tuesday night, so Penny's training will start again on Wednesday. We will be back to day one, but we know so much more about training this time that hopefully it will go better.

Actually, it may actually be Thursday before we get serious. Wednesday will be very busy getting settled back in after being gone so long. Also, the family crisis will not be over, just moving to Texas - sort of.

Hopefully things will settle down in a couple of weeks.

Thanks everyone for being there for us.

ladygotcoldfeet · 05-19-2009, 09:45 PM

suki is spoiled by her daddy also..she even sleeps on the same bed with us now even if we're still training her..funny thing is when im around she poop & pee at the right place but when hubby gets home she usually do her business where he gets irritated the most (i think to attract attention coz he is on work all day)..we never crate suki, but she didn't leave our room for a month since we got her. at night she wake us up when she need to go (usually me). i think if she can smell her scent she will do it more often in that place..i dont know if im a help or not but i hope you and your baby's situation will be fine soon..

delicatepuzzle · 05-19-2009, 10:46 PM

i wish I didn't crate train but it is quite amazing. Versace my older boy doesn't konw what to do with himself when he has my whole room to run around in when I'm gone. He poops and marks. I keep his crate under my bed (my bed is a good four-five feet off the floor) and he loves the den likeness and curls up with his blankies and he's good. LOL I hope all ends up ok. That's soooo cute that she chills with daddy up on his desk.

05-12-2009, 06:45 AM	#1
ParrotLady Donating YT Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Ross, TX Posts: 259	Disappointed with hubby caring for Penny My daughter and I are in CA due to a family crisis and we ended up leaving Penny behind with my husband, Terry. Penny gets so car sick and still isn't potty trained, so we thought it would be best to leave her home. Well, Terry isn't up for the training stuff and Penny is getting by with everything! He lets her follow him into our bedroom and she does "business" in there on the floor several days a week. He said that she leaves puddles and piles in all kinds of places. Do you think we will have to start from square one on potty training when we get back? I hate the idea of crating her again. We are so disappointed in all this. Really, Terry thinks he is being sweet. He felt sorry for her being "boxed" in and only having access to my office and kitchen since he doesn't work in there. I thought that was fine, because he is in the room next to the kitchen so I changed the boxes to include his office too and just encouraged him to watch her closely. Well, he decided he didn't have time for the potty training and would rather put up with cleaning up the messes. He thinks we can just get her back to the potty training when we get home. Really, he is spoiling her. Most of the time when we call each other Penny is sleeping ON his desk. He put a blanket up there for her to lay on. LOL This dog is going to think she is the queen of the house when we return. Well, I just needed to vent. Also, I am wondering if anyone has left their dog somewhere and had to retrain them when they returned. __________________ Tracie and Penny http://www.parrot-and-conure-world.com Last edited by ParrotLady; 05-12-2009 at 06:46 AM.

05-12-2009, 08:01 AM	#3
jlafred YT Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Seaford,Delaware Posts: 402	Cant wait to see the replies on this cuz I had a similar prob with Sassy and my sister in law while we were on vacation. She was crate trained when we left but while we were gone, she was allowed to sleep in the bed with my sister in law! I was upset that my instructions were not followed. Needless to say she was untrained when I returned. __________________ Luv my Sassy girl

05-12-2009, 08:23 AM	#4
PiePiper Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Connecticut Posts: 759	Last summer I had to leave Piper with my DH for a week. She was only 15 weeks at the time and she pottied outside. If you took her out about every 90 min you hardly ever had mistakes. She was contained in the kitchen and in an x-pen at night. My DH is retired so he was home all day yet it was very difficult for him to remember to take her outside so frequently. So she had accidents in the kitchen. She also had an x-pen outside and I would stand there and watch her till she pottied and then praise her and bring her in. My DH found that it was easier for him just to put her in the pen then putt putt outside in the yard and bring her back in. He never really watched her to see if she pottied so again there was quite a few accidents in the kitchen. I only had one day till I was going home and DH called my screaming who is our vet? Which he should have just looked at writtened down instructions of Piper's care where the vet's phone number was clearly written. On an August afternoon he puts Piper in her outside pen and putts, putts in the yard and goes back in. HE FORGOT PIPER. A whole hour outside in the sun, no water. He almost killed my baby. She was listless. Luckily he had enough sence to put her in cool water and I told him to give her the nutrical and he rushed her to the vets. Time he got there she was fine. Once I got home her training was back on scheduled with no problem. __________________ Mom to Piper & Chipper

05-12-2009, 09:25 AM	#5
QuickSilver Thor's Human Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: San Francisco, CA Posts: 5,929 Blog Entries: 31	PiePiper, yikes! I know it's nerve wracking to leave your little student under someone else's care. Being a "single mom", my training was pretty consistent, but I had to leave Thor with friends several times while we were training. I think it's just like kids. They will probably "unlearn" some of the training, but they will re-learn it too when you get back. Even if you go back to the crate for a few days, it will be much faster the next time around. I would try not to sweat it too much. Just BEG your husband to clean up the accidents with an enzyme cleaner, or you might have to steam clean the carpet when you get back. __________________ If you love something, set it free. Unless it's an angry tiger.

05-12-2009, 09:32 AM	#6
Patti Donating YT 30K Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 35,509 Blog Entries: 6	I can understand your frustration, but hopefully she is safe and happy and will get back on track when you get home. I have to leave my 3 for 5 or 6 days for the first time and as long as they are happy and safe I will be ok. I know noone is going to treat them like I do but as long as Penny is Ok then try not to stress. __________________ Cali Pixie Roxie : RIP Nikki; RIP Maya;RIP my sweet Dixie girl 1/17/08 http://callipuppyscastle.bravehost.com/index.html

05-12-2009, 07:52 AM	#2
phfgkl BANNED! Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: South Carolina Posts: 2,376	I've never been a crate trainer, only xpen, and that's only to sleep in and when we go away for a little bit. Other than that, just like the new one we just got, she's allowed out here with us, and if I catch her peeing or pooping where it's not acceptable, I pick her up, put her nose down by it(this is what has worked for me for years) tell her NO and take her to the pee pad and tell her you potty on the pad. When I do catch her going where she's supposed too, I give lots of praises. Some people will say this is wrong, and it will make them afriad of you. In years, I've never had one dog afraid of me. Hopefully you will get the pup back on track. Mine are not allowed all through the house, to me, that's wrong, they don't need to be in the bedrooms or the living room. They have a huge family room, where we're usually with them all day, the kitchen and laundry room, this way they don't get a chance to pee on the newer carpet. Good luck and sorry to hear about the family emergency

05-15-2009, 04:33 PM	#7
lemonlauren YT Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Nevada Posts: 454	Aw, I'm sorry to hear about this. Potty training is super time-consuming and frustrating, but it's really a shame your husband couldn't handle it. Definitely find some way to beg/convince/threaten him to use that enzyme cleaner religiously. I don't have any experience with this, but I do think that Penny will re-learn when you two get back home. I feel for you, Lauren & Nikko

05-16-2009, 09:35 PM	#8
capt_noonie www.yorkierescue.com Donating Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Las Vegas & Orange County Posts: 17,408	Wouldn't you think that potty training would be less time consuming than cleaning up all those messes? I think certain parts of the house should be off limits, closed off to your baby. Maybe keep doors closed, or put up gates. Hubby will do what he wants when you are not there to ask/nag/harrass him constantly, trust me I know. LOL. Just focus on your family crisis now, your baby will be fine when you get back. If you have to retrain she will be even better than before! : ) Hope everything works out for you and your family. __________________ The T.U.B. Pack! Toto, Uni, & Bindi RIP Lord Scrappington Montgomery McLimpybottom aka El Lenguo the Handicapped Ninja 10-12-12

05-16-2009, 10:09 PM	#9
kidmuzicdotcom Shelby Rae's Mom Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Cypress Posts: 815	wow...i'm surprised to read about how restricted everyone's yorkies are around the house....my girls have free reign of the house,,because we feel it is as much their home as it is ours...if someone comes over who is afraid of dogs we will not confine them to the bedroom...it is their home and that person can either get a grip or leave...our babies are not in the slightest bit aggressive...anyhow...we do have a doggie door and they go out when they need to...shelby rae basically goes out does her business and comes right back in...little kaylee uses her potty pads and we have them on both floors and in all rooms..we are slowly cutting down towards one upstairs and one downstairs...the thing is she does great with tinkling on the potty pads but she poops on the tile and then wants to bring it to us as a present so we're still working on that part.. __________________ Shelby Rae's Mom and Kaylee's Nana[SIZE=2][COLOR=Red]

05-16-2009, 10:12 PM	#10
QuickSilver Thor's Human Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: San Francisco, CA Posts: 5,929 Blog Entries: 31	I think most people are talking aout restricting their dogs during potty training, not generally. __________________ If you love something, set it free. Unless it's an angry tiger.

05-16-2009, 10:16 PM	#11
kidmuzicdotcom Shelby Rae's Mom Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Cypress Posts: 815	oh ok...just checking...i was afraid I was doing something terribly wrong with the baby's training by letting her have the run of the house __________________ Shelby Rae's Mom and Kaylee's Nana[SIZE=2][COLOR=Red]

05-17-2009, 06:48 PM	#12
ParrotLady Donating YT Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Ross, TX Posts: 259	Almost back home We get back home Tuesday night, so Penny's training will start again on Wednesday. We will be back to day one, but we know so much more about training this time that hopefully it will go better. Actually, it may actually be Thursday before we get serious. Wednesday will be very busy getting settled back in after being gone so long. Also, the family crisis will not be over, just moving to Texas - sort of. Hopefully things will settle down in a couple of weeks. Thanks everyone for being there for us. __________________ Tracie and Penny http://www.parrot-and-conure-world.com

05-19-2009, 09:45 PM	#13
ladygotcoldfeet Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: bulgaria Posts: 130	suki is spoiled by her daddy also..she even sleeps on the same bed with us now even if we're still training her..funny thing is when im around she poop & pee at the right place but when hubby gets home she usually do her business where he gets irritated the most (i think to attract attention coz he is on work all day)..we never crate suki, but she didn't leave our room for a month since we got her. at night she wake us up when she need to go (usually me). i think if she can smell her scent she will do it more often in that place..i dont know if im a help or not but i hope you and your baby's situation will be fine soon.. __________________ loving mommy of SUKI RIP KIMI

05-19-2009, 10:46 PM	#14
delicatepuzzle Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Orlando, FL, USA Posts: 603	i wish I didn't crate train but it is quite amazing. Versace my older boy doesn't konw what to do with himself when he has my whole room to run around in when I'm gone. He poops and marks. I keep his crate under my bed (my bed is a good four-five feet off the floor) and he loves the den likeness and curls up with his blankies and he's good. LOL I hope all ends up ok. That's soooo cute that she chills with daddy up on his desk.