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02-12-2008, 09:28 AM | #1 |
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| Please help, I can't take it any more I've had Harley for about a month now, and he has been wonderful...for the most part. At first, Harley loved my boyfriend. Harley would go sit with him and not me. He seems to only like to play with men, and wants to cuddle women. My boyfriend is great with him, and takes him for walks and every thing. But now, its another story. It started a 2 weeks ago when I was laying on the ground because my bf was going to pop my back. Harley went nuts and went after my bf. He chased him and was trying to bite him. He was fine once I grabbed him and told him "NO". I had my bf pet him and talk to him nice so that he knew that my bf wasn't trying to hurt me. A few other incidents happened, but last night was the absolute worst. I took Harley out for a walk, and my (sick) bf got in bed. Harley and I came back in and when I went to get in bed, Harley jumped up and ran right over to my bf and tried to bite him. He would not let up and kept trying to bite him. So I finally went out in the living room so the big ol' sick baby could get some sleep. Harley fell asleep on me, and after about an hour, I went back to bed. He ran up to my bf and bit him. He got him bad on the hand, which he used to block his face. I put him out of the room and closed the door, but he was so loud and scratching the door, and we both needed to sleep. I ended up putting Harley on his leash and had to sleep that way so he wouldn't attack my bf. I was up allll night. He just gets really aggressive when my bf is over and bites pillows and tears up shoes. He NEVER is aggressive when my bf isn't around. He is actually really lazy and I have to force him to get out of bed sometimes, lol. So I need help. I want to get married and have kids eventually, and I'll never be able to if I have Harley. |
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02-12-2008, 09:35 AM | #2 |
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| How old is Harley???
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02-12-2008, 09:42 AM | #3 |
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| He's 4 years old. |
02-12-2008, 09:48 AM | #4 |
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| Is he a rescue? Do you know anything about his past life? I ask these questions because the answers may help. These are learned behaviors and you can work with him. For now, I would rec. having your boyfriend be the one to feed him, (always after he sits for his food) and walk him (at least some of the time). He's got to figure out that he (the human) is in charge. Even more importantly, I'd find a good trainer to work with you all. It'll take some time, but you will all be better off for it. Good luck! Hopefully someone here will have more direct advice. Regardless, I don't think there is any substitute for regularly working with a good trainer when there are aggression issues.
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02-12-2008, 09:51 AM | #5 |
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| Harley is showing he's your main man and not your BF. First off I would not allow him on the bed, ever! Put his bed next to yours but it's important he stay off the bed. Show him the bed is yours not his. Second have your BF walk him and give him treats. Your BF needs to be more involved in his life. You have to show him your Alpha. His leader. I am sure he's a good boy but having issues when your BF is over is not good. He just needs some re adjusting of his way of thinking. Good luck and have patience. |
02-12-2008, 09:55 AM | #6 |
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| I got him from someone on here, who got him from a rescue. As far as I know, I am his 4th owner. She didn't tell me about his aggression at all. All she said was that he didn't like cats and he wasn't happy with her and her family. I believe she only had him for a few weeks. Thanks for the advice, but unfortuanately I can't afford a trainer. I just finished spending hundreds on getting rid of the lice he was infested with when I got him. |
02-12-2008, 09:57 AM | #7 | |
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02-12-2008, 09:57 AM | #8 |
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| IMO... I think your BF needs to assert himself as the "alpha dog/male"... If your pup goes to bite him, or acts in any way that he isnt suppose to, HE needs to tell the dog NO firmly, not you... If not, it seems to me that this will continue... Hope this helps
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02-12-2008, 09:57 AM | #9 |
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| What should I do when he does bite or get aggressive? I believe he was abused, because when I tell him "NO!" he crouches down and closes his eyes like I'm going to beat him. Its really sad. |
02-12-2008, 09:59 AM | #10 | |
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02-12-2008, 10:00 AM | #11 | |
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02-12-2008, 10:03 AM | #12 | |
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I think he's doing that because he knows he's done wrong... Meka crouches down and looks away when I tell her no... and its because they are very smart and understand perfectly what they are and arent to do. Even my 5 yr old daughter does that sad look... Its a natural reaction when one realizes fault... JMO
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02-12-2008, 10:19 AM | #13 |
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| When NO isn't enough anymore, roll him over onto his back and don't let him up until he gives up the fight. Have your BF do it too.
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02-14-2008, 11:49 AM | #14 |
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| So, the last 2 nights Harley has not slept in my bed. I got him a little bed, but he won't lay in it, he gets underneath it! He always slept under the covers with me so, I think he just likes being cozy! My bf hasn't been over since the other day, so we haven't gotten any where with that part yet. Just working on the bed thing, which hasn't realyl been too bad. I forgot I had taken this picture about a week ago, and thought I would share. This is what is frustrating, he will cuddle my bf, but then attack him. BTW, my bf doesn't really look this ugly...he looks fat, but he weighs like 170 llbs, lol. http://i150.photobucket.com/albums/s...ey/Mine005.jpg |
02-14-2008, 11:55 AM | #15 | |
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Put a blanket in his bed. It's his choice to use it or not. I am sure he already knows your taking charge. When your BF does come over make sure he comes with treat in hand when you let him in. When Harley realizes your BF comes with treats for him he will welcome him with open paws. | |
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