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marcerella02 · 01-08-2008, 09:58 AM

reminder- Layla bit the cat on Sunday while she was eating.. we had just gotten home on Saturday from being away for 3 weeks (Layla was with us.. the cat was not) so things were fine.. she and the cat are friends... all is good... today she went to her babysitters where she hasn't been in over a month... and she has two dogs... a 3 year old Lab- Oaklee who is Layla's best friend and a 1 yr old Labradoodle- Pluto, who is a bit overwhelming for Layla. Well she snapped at them both today.... i'm not surprised that she did to Pluto because the babysitter says it is her way of letting Pluto know that she doens't want to play rough.. but i can't beleive she snapped at Oaklee... I called this afternoon to check up on her and Lee (her babysitter) told me... my heart just hurts... why is she doing this? Lee seems to think it is because she was used to just being with me for 3 whole weeks and now she has to get back to her normal routine.. she says she has been fine since then.. but i'm still worried... we start obedience at the end of the month and Layla has been known to have attitude there.. it isnt' that she doens't like other dogs. but at obedience we are in this small room and she gets overhwhelmed... anyways.. im' just so sad... i want to go pick her up right now and bring her home.. but i'm at school until 6:30

what did i do wrong?

Ellie May · 01-08-2008, 10:34 AM

Please don't blame yourself. I know exactly how you feel. Ellie acts the same way with other dogs but she really doesn't like them. She is also very food aggressive for no reason. I don't have any advice for you but I can see how frustrated you are and I am so sorry. I hope things get back to normal soon.

marcerella02 · 01-08-2008, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Ellie May

Please don't blame yourself. I know exactly how you feel. Ellie acts the same way with other dogs but she really doesn't like them. She is also very food aggressive for no reason. I don't have any advice for you but I can see how frustrated you are and I am so sorry. I hope things get back to normal soon.

you have no idea how good i feel knowing it isn't just me.... you know i read all the books and i thought i was doing things right... but sometimes i feel like part of it isn't her fault... we only have ONE dog.. so on a daily basis she doenst' interact with other dogs.... thanks for leeting me know i'm not alone

Maybe Layla and Ellie need to get together.. lol... they could relate

charly · 01-08-2008, 11:12 AM

I agree with the babysitter Layla has been away with you for three weeks; her routine was interrupted and now she needs to get back on schedule. You know how babies can get when their schedules are any way interrupted. They can be ficke too. Our little furbabies are the same way. Its great she is in her obedience class.

Ellie May · 01-08-2008, 11:30 AM

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Originally Posted by marcerella02

you have no idea how good i feel knowing it isn't just me.... you know i read all the books and i thought i was doing things right... but sometimes i feel like part of it isn't her fault... we only have ONE dog.. so on a daily basis she doenst' interact with other dogs.... thanks for leeting me know i'm not alone

Maybe Layla and Ellie need to get together.. lol... they could relate

I KNOW I'm not doing everything right.

I don't crate her at night, I let her walk out the door first.... but then again, if she was crated she would scream and I am the one who couldn't sleep then.

I agree with her babysitter. It is obviously from going away and being reintroduced to everything. I just wouldn't be so sure it is going to get better (sorry

). Ellie used to love other dogs. Now she can't stand them (unless they are really quiet, then she doesn't care). This problem isn't going away anytime soon because I don't know the correction for it. Besides, Ellie isn't a "correctable" dog. She does the right thing once to make me happy but she is a tough one.

sweetheartsok · 01-08-2008, 05:10 PM

Don't be so hard on yourself...she will get back into her routine and adjust to having other animals around once again. They are just like kids, just when you finally have them on a routine you go on holidays, they cut teeth, get sick whatever and the routine is out the door and you have to start all over again. It won't take long and everything will be normal once again. It's good you are going through this with Layla so when you do have kids you won't be so hard on yourself. You will have been through it all before. Layla is so lucky to have you. It's obvious that you love her to bits.

marcerella02 · 01-08-2008, 05:10 PM

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Originally Posted by sweetheartsok

Don't be so hard on yourself...she will get back into her routine and adjust to having other animals around once again. They are just like kids, just when you finally have them on a routine you go on holidays, they cut teeth, get sick whatever and the routine is out the door and you have to start all over again. It won't take long and everything will be normal once again. It's good you are going through this with Layla so when you do have kids you won't be so hard on yourself. You will have been through it all before. Layla is so lucky to have you. It's obvious that you love her to bits.

Thanks

that made me feel better!

sexiixtc · 01-08-2008, 05:14 PM

you didn't do ANYTHING wrong.. you're a great momma.. Layla just needs time to adjust

Suzy · 01-08-2008, 06:59 PM

Marci, don't be so hard on yourself, really! Layla is going through her adjustment period of being back to her normal schedule. She was spoiled being with you and your parents for almost a month-she had all of you to herself, and didn't have to share any attention with any other dogs. Also, she didn't have any dog friends as companions while you were on vacation. Now that she's back to her usual schedule, she's got to learn to share the human attention, to be away from you, and to play nice with her friends. It will take a few days, but after she readjusts, it will all be fine. I'm actually glad to hear that Layla's standing up for herself and letting the bigger dogs know that she doesn't want to play rough. Also, she may have just been re-establishing order with her friend Oaklee.

Emma and Milli have gone to the same daycare since Emma was about 6 months old, and I had never had a problem. Do you remember my post about how they started marking there? Well, it's because I didn't take them as frequently (since we have our house/yard now), and they were unfamiliar with their surroundings and their dog friends that they used to play with every day. We left them there overnight the weekend between Christmas and New Years to go to a wedding, and they wore their go fetch panties-but they only needed them on the first few hours they were there. Once they remembered where they were, and who the other dogs were, they calmed down and were fine the rest of the weekend.

Also, BOTH of mine snap and growl a little at the others when they first get there. It's one of their only ways of communicating-if they could talk and work things out, they would

They just need to put each other in their places, and after a time or two, they have it all worked out between them, and they're the best of friends! Don't go and pick her up if she's having a bad day-that will only reinforce that you will "rescue" her if she's acting up-which could lead to her acting up more. Leave her there for her normal amount of time, and she'll learn to get along just like she did before.

Don't worry-it will be fine in a day or two!!! Hang in there!

Maxi · 01-16-2008, 10:40 PM

Sounds like your baby is becoming more dominant towards dogs and also the change I guess would matter too. When you have other dogs around try to socialize them if your baby snaps correct her by moving her away and say no. If that wont work and she still snaps try to put her on her back and let her rest by gently holding her when she acts up. I stopped Maxi from crazy behavior like that. Hope it helps. Its not your fault all dogs want to be dominant at one point of their life, and if they see the perfect moment they will go for it. Maybe the change triggered her. Hope it works out.

PANAMA69 · 01-20-2008, 03:10 PM

Give her some time

I have a very good friend that have a labradoodle and she is wayyy to wild for my girls maybe she is tired and need some time to rest and don't want to be bother, maybe is the time of the month he,he

yoyo27 · 01-20-2008, 03:16 PM

Well nothing you have done but spoiled and pampered that little one and she Loved it!!!! She is just acting out and sad she wants her momma. Things will get back on track but it might take awhile.

01-08-2008, 09:58 AM	#1
marcerella02 Loved by Layla Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 11,257	what am i doing wrong? reminder- Layla bit the cat on Sunday while she was eating.. we had just gotten home on Saturday from being away for 3 weeks (Layla was with us.. the cat was not) so things were fine.. she and the cat are friends... all is good... today she went to her babysitters where she hasn't been in over a month... and she has two dogs... a 3 year old Lab- Oaklee who is Layla's best friend and a 1 yr old Labradoodle- Pluto, who is a bit overwhelming for Layla. Well she snapped at them both today.... i'm not surprised that she did to Pluto because the babysitter says it is her way of letting Pluto know that she doens't want to play rough.. but i can't beleive she snapped at Oaklee... I called this afternoon to check up on her and Lee (her babysitter) told me... my heart just hurts... why is she doing this? Lee seems to think it is because she was used to just being with me for 3 whole weeks and now she has to get back to her normal routine.. she says she has been fine since then.. but i'm still worried... we start obedience at the end of the month and Layla has been known to have attitude there.. it isnt' that she doens't like other dogs. but at obedience we are in this small room and she gets overhwhelmed... anyways.. im' just so sad... i want to go pick her up right now and bring her home.. but i'm at school until 6:30 what did i do wrong? __________________ http://misscanam.blogspot.com/ Layla 's Simon

01-08-2008, 10:34 AM	#2
Ellie May And Rylee Finnegan Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Metro Detroit, MI Posts: 17,928	Please don't blame yourself. I know exactly how you feel. Ellie acts the same way with other dogs but she really doesn't like them. She is also very food aggressive for no reason. I don't have any advice for you but I can see how frustrated you are and I am so sorry. I hope things get back to normal soon. __________________ Crystal, Ellie May (RIP), Rylee Finnegan, and Gracie Boo🐶

01-08-2008, 11:12 AM	#4
charly Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: So Ca Posts: 2,376	I agree with the babysitter Layla has been away with you for three weeks; her routine was interrupted and now she needs to get back on schedule. You know how babies can get when their schedules are any way interrupted. They can be ficke too. Our little furbabies are the same way. Its great she is in her obedience class. __________________

01-08-2008, 05:10 PM	#6
sweetheartsok YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Ontario,Canada Posts: 626	Don't be so hard on yourself...she will get back into her routine and adjust to having other animals around once again. They are just like kids, just when you finally have them on a routine you go on holidays, they cut teeth, get sick whatever and the routine is out the door and you have to start all over again. It won't take long and everything will be normal once again. It's good you are going through this with Layla so when you do have kids you won't be so hard on yourself. You will have been through it all before. Layla is so lucky to have you. It's obvious that you love her to bits. __________________ ~Mary~ Mommy to Mindy 1 Years Old and Bear I Years Old "Proud Member of the Little Gentlemen's Club "

01-08-2008, 05:14 PM	#8
sexiixtc Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Chicago Posts: 3,145	you didn't do ANYTHING wrong.. you're a great momma.. Layla just needs time to adjust __________________ Edith and my two Princesses Kayah and Evie Proud Member of "The Pink Club"

01-08-2008, 06:59 PM	#9
Suzy 2 Pups=Double Trouble! Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Iowa Posts: 6,581	Marci, don't be so hard on yourself, really! Layla is going through her adjustment period of being back to her normal schedule. She was spoiled being with you and your parents for almost a month-she had all of you to herself, and didn't have to share any attention with any other dogs. Also, she didn't have any dog friends as companions while you were on vacation. Now that she's back to her usual schedule, she's got to learn to share the human attention, to be away from you, and to play nice with her friends. It will take a few days, but after she readjusts, it will all be fine. I'm actually glad to hear that Layla's standing up for herself and letting the bigger dogs know that she doesn't want to play rough. Also, she may have just been re-establishing order with her friend Oaklee. Emma and Milli have gone to the same daycare since Emma was about 6 months old, and I had never had a problem. Do you remember my post about how they started marking there? Well, it's because I didn't take them as frequently (since we have our house/yard now), and they were unfamiliar with their surroundings and their dog friends that they used to play with every day. We left them there overnight the weekend between Christmas and New Years to go to a wedding, and they wore their go fetch panties-but they only needed them on the first few hours they were there. Once they remembered where they were, and who the other dogs were, they calmed down and were fine the rest of the weekend. Also, BOTH of mine snap and growl a little at the others when they first get there. It's one of their only ways of communicating-if they could talk and work things out, they would They just need to put each other in their places, and after a time or two, they have it all worked out between them, and they're the best of friends! Don't go and pick her up if she's having a bad day-that will only reinforce that you will "rescue" her if she's acting up-which could lead to her acting up more. Leave her there for her normal amount of time, and she'll learn to get along just like she did before. Don't worry-it will be fine in a day or two!!! Hang in there! __________________ Suzy Emma & Milli What's better than loving a yorkie? Loving two yorkies! Milli 's Remi!

01-16-2008, 10:40 PM	#10
Maxi My Little Man! Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: New York Posts: 2,189 Blog Entries: 1	Sounds like your baby is becoming more dominant towards dogs and also the change I guess would matter too. When you have other dogs around try to socialize them if your baby snaps correct her by moving her away and say no. If that wont work and she still snaps try to put her on her back and let her rest by gently holding her when she acts up. I stopped Maxi from crazy behavior like that. Hope it helps. Its not your fault all dogs want to be dominant at one point of their life, and if they see the perfect moment they will go for it. Maybe the change triggered her. Hope it works out. __________________ Watch Maxi on Youtube! By purchasing pet store or other puppy mill puppies, you support the abuse of innocent animals!

01-20-2008, 03:10 PM	#11
PANAMA69 Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: ~~YorkieWorld~~ Posts: 8,428	Give her some time I have a very good friend that have a labradoodle and she is wayyy to wild for my girls maybe she is tired and need some time to rest and don't want to be bother, maybe is the time of the month he,he

01-20-2008, 03:16 PM	#12
yoyo27 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Missouri Posts: 1,741	Well nothing you have done but spoiled and pampered that little one and she Loved it!!!! She is just acting out and sad she wants her momma. Things will get back on track but it might take awhile. __________________ " Santa's on his Way! From: Cali, Cinnamon, and Zoie.