better living: UK or USA? or any other country

[ally173]

I tried posting this in off topics but no response; hopefully someone can shed some insight here. thanks

lately i have been thinking a lot about moving to a new country. I have been living in NJ, USA for over 15 years and I need a change. I wanted to hear some feedback from people who lived in the UK or any other country; to give me an idea if it's better to live in other countries; is there are jobs, how's everyday pace and are the people nice......

any feedback about any country is welcome!
Thanks much.

[JeanieK]

My son lives in Wales and the economy there is worse than ours.

This is a big country, why not just try moving to a different area. The midwest is wonderful. The economy is more stable than many other areas, the weather is interesting and unpredictasble, but that is part of the charm.

[ally173]

Originally Posted by JeanieK

My son lives in Wales and the economy there is worse than ours.

This is a big country, why not just try moving to a different area. The midwest is wonderful. The economy is more stable than many other areas, the weather is interesting and unpredictasble, but that is part of the charm.

thanks for replying
which states would you recommend. i am looking for a slower pace life style and a not so overpopulated area with friendly and nice people.

you know NY and NJ area is great; but there 's too many people here and life is so fast and i am getting tired of that. always busy with work and not enough spare time to socialize; so now i find myself single at 32 and not being able to find a decent guy; not sure where they went

[ARCHIE]

Originally Posted by ally173

thanks for replying
which states would you recommend. i am looking for a slower pace life style and a not so overpopulated area with friendly and nice people.

you know NY and NJ area is great; but there 's too many people here and life is so fast and i am getting tired of that. always busy with work and not enough spare time to socialize; so now i find myself single at 32 and not being able to find a decent guy; not sure where they went

If my kids would follow me I would move to the Carolina's.
So. Carolina is beautiful and the people there are so friendly.
I have to laugh when I'm at a stop light and it turns
green no one hunks, they give you a second to hit the
gas. LOL
In NY if your not moving at the exact second
the light hits green you can hear horns honking at you
People there seem to be much slower in getting where they
need to go without all the stress and rudeness of NY'ers.
Yep I think people are rude in NY. I live there so I can say it.
They are also very stressed and always in a hurry. I guess
I am too. But I'm not rude. Really I'm not.
Good luck to you wherever you go.

[ally173]

thanks Archie; i think we might be rude because we are stressed with this stressfull and busy life and there's so much stress a human can indure.
and i would like to make it clear to anyone; i am not trying to make NY and NJ look or sound bad; i am just looking for feedback and i would hate for this post to turn into a debate or argument

[Meggie]

I had to look twice to see if I was still on the Europe site as all of your answers have been from America!

I've never lived anywhere but the UK so have no comparisons, other than how it is here in England now compared to how it was twelve years ago.
We're not allowed to discuss politics on here, otherwise I would be having a real old rant about what this Labour government has done to this country, begun by an ex PM now making a mint in the States.

If I was much younger I'd seriously consider leaving.

xx
Meggie

[ally173]

Originally Posted by Meggie

I had to look twice to see if I was still on the Europe site as all of your answers have been from America!

I've never lived anywhere but the UK so have no comparisons, other than how it is here in England now compared to how it was twelve years ago.
We're not allowed to discuss politics on here, otherwise I would be having a real old rant about what this Labour government has done to this country, begun by an ex PM now making a mint in the States.

If I was much younger I'd seriously consider leaving.

xx
Meggie

Thanks Meggie for this insight; i am just looking for any feedback from anywhere really. and it's great to hear from people from the UK. please feel free to send me messages. take care

[diane boden]

I'm with ya Meggie. I live in the west midlands, still very much an area reliant on traditional industrial work so we've really been hit hard. Wouldn't swap the village I live in though, compared to many places its reletively quiet. Many of the people on my esate have lived here for a long time and I'm surrounded by family. The shopping facilities are fairly easy to reach but not too close if you get my meaning.

[bjh]

I think where you live, whether it be the U.S. or another country would totally depend on the area of each specific country. Every country has their good areas and bad areas. Being a ex-navy brat I got to see lots of the United States and it is a beautiful country with a huge variety of climate and scenery. You just have to ask yourself what climate, what type of scenery and what type of life style you prefer. I love it here in Southeast Texas but I guess if I had the money I might move somewhere where it is not so hot and humid all the time. Of course I would not want to be that far away from my kids and grandkids either. I would never be happy living in a big busy city. I like the slower pace of country living but then I am 60 years old. The cost of living is really high in some areas too so you also have to consider that. Sometimes change is good. I hope that whatever you choose to do that you will find happiness and that special person along the way. I met my husband over 19 years ago through a personal ad in the newspaper and he is the best husband ever. There is much more to life than work so please take time to really enjoy life along the way.

[livingdustmops]

I was very lucky because when I got out of college I became a travel agent (parents were not happy - not what my degree was in) but I got to travel the world for about 12 years. Then I joined a major corporation who have moved me 12 times in the US. As children our family took month long vacations every year and travel the whole US. I can say without a doubt I could live in hundreds of places...the world is beautiful and area's of the US are fabulous. One of the things I have learned is that it doesn't matter where you live if you have friends... but having said this my suggeston is:

Set a time frame (maybe couple of years) and then start taking vacations to all these places you might be interested in. You have to be adventuresome and you have to like people but if these are things you want to visit/maybe move to then go for it by yourself so you really get the lay of the land before you make a committment.

[ally173]

thanks everyone for your insight; i would love to visit other states in the US; to at least see the differences and if i like them. living in NJ is getting to me; the life pace here is really fast and all i do is work; i was going to school too, and recently i received my masters. i know i should have more free time on my hand, but for some reason i feel a void. i feel all i do is work and then come home; it's getting to be very boring. what states would you recommend, anyone. thanks much for all your input

[bjh]

Originally Posted by ally173

thanks everyone for your insight; i would love to visit other states in the US; to at least see the differences and if i like them. living in NJ is getting to me; the life pace here is really fast and all i do is work; i was going to school too, and recently i received my masters. i know i should have more free time on my hand, but for some reason i feel a void. i feel all i do is work and then come home; it's getting to be very boring. what states would you recommend, anyone. thanks much for all your input

Do you have any hobbies you would enjoy like boating, fishing, hiking, skiing, etc. Are you involved with a church or a volunteer group? There are many things you can do that could take the humdrums out of your life. Cindy had excellent advise about just planning some mini-vacations so you can visit different parts of the U.S. and the world. Have you ever considered joining a singles group that does the group vacation planning. I know my mom did that when she was older and she had a great time traveling with other people her age.

[ally173]

Originally Posted by bjh

Do you have any hobbies you would enjoy like boating, fishing, hiking, skiing, etc. Are you involved with a church or a volunteer group? There are many things you can do that could take the humdrums out of your life. Cindy had excellent advise about just planning some mini-vacations so you can visit different parts of the U.S. and the world. Have you ever considered joining a singles group that does the group vacation planning. I know my mom did that when she was older and she had a great time traveling with other people her age.

nothing in NJ to do really. it's a swamp, literally; at least where i live.
i would love to find a singles group; i will look into it; but if anyone knows of any please let me know. thanks

[tjdmom]

I'm in upstate NY and not rude either but I think maybe upstate is a little different? Although, I think maybe rude people are everywhere but mostly I would not recommend NY because of our high taxes. I would move out of the state if it were not for my family. Taxes here are very high and in fact, I can't afford to buy a new house, not because I couldn't affort the mortgage payment but because I can't afford to have my taxes double or triple. I pay about $3000 a year for property taxes now, I would easily double that number if I upgraded my home. And that's just property taxes.....

[ally173]

i know it's so expensive to live in NY or NJ; rent keeps going up and up. i need to find a state where rent is cheaper than NJ and life is better and slower...